Reason to love

Do you really need a reason to love? Or is love really blind and you could fall in love right away, right there, whether it's right or wrong?

Once you could fall in love with a person without ever knowing why, even after you're questioning to yourself you still don't know why. You just fall in love. Even after the person was gone and you've cried all days and all weeks and all months, the love is still there.

Or, once you could fall in love because you have so many reasons for: he/she is nice, charmed, smart, kind...and he/she loves you. Now in this case, you love him/her back.

So, which one is better? I always thought that love comes without any reason, even with all the logic in this world, love is still blind and fool. Of course the best scenario is when you fall for someone and the person loves you back. But how if the case was reversed and that person loves you first, and then you could love him/her back. In the end, seems that you love someone for a reason.

My mom told me when I was young: go explore the world of dating, don't stick with the same guy for too long when you're still young. What a kewl mom! But of course, I always bounced back and never listened to her. It's proved that what she said was right...I'd closed so many opportunities because I didn't listen to her. And she told me that once you got the experience, you will see how to value a guy from his truth, and not from his bullshit. Not gonna say I've graduated from her lesson yet, and still in the learning process. But now I understand her thoughts. And finally she said that for me to be with someone who loves me first and then I could love him back, because a woman will be more faithful, and she could make the relationship works when a man loves her so deep, but it's not that simple in the reversed cased. Hmm...I wonder why, a man is not as faithful as a woman?

Anyways, just a wondering thought is it right to love someone because you do have a reason, meanings that you take that as a granted? Or is love really there, tangled and uncovered, but it's exist without any reason....?