Love her....

Stephen, I have a difficult situation now. Look at my marriage. I'm really worried. My wife and I just don't have the same feelings for each other that we used to have. I guess I just don't love her anymore and she doesn't love me. What can I do?

The feeling isn't there anymore?

That's right. And we have 3 children we're really concerned about. What do you suggest?

Love her.

I told you, the feeling isn't there anymore.

Love her.

You don't understand. The feeling of love isn't there.

Then love her. If the feeling isn't there, that's a good reason to love her.

But how do you love when you don't love??

My friend, love is a verb. Love - the feeling - is a fruit of love, the verb. So love her. Serve her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Emphatize. Appreciate. Affirm her. Are you willing to do that?


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